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Was bedeutet Sex für dich und vor allem, was bedeutet es, wenn du den nicht hast?
Wenn du keinen oder wenig Sex (mit deinem Lieblingsmenschen) hast, stört dich das? Falls ja, warum?
Warum ist Sex so wichtig? Wofür steht der und warum ist es "schlimm" wenn du den nicht hast?
Für einige Menschen ist Sex = Intimität. Wenn das fehlt und es sonst keine Bereiche gibt die mit Intimität verknüpft sind, wie z.B. Unternehmungen, intime Gespräche,
Komplimente, Aufmerksamkeit usw. dann entsteht möglicherweise schnell Zweifel an der Beziehung.
"Wenn wir keinen Sex haben, brauchen wir auch keine Beziehung führen. Dann können wir auch nur Freunde sein." Das kann mit Glaubenssätzen verknüpft sein, dass die Idee einer
Beziehung auch mit dem Anspruch/Garantie auf Sex basiert.
Vielleicht bedeute Sex haben auch, dass man sich geliebt fühlt und versteht das als Liebes"beweis". Wenn dieser fehlt kann es sein, dass Ängste geweckt werden. "Wenn wir
keinen Sex haben, begehrt/liebt sie*er mich nicht" => "Wenn er*sie mich nicht liebt, werde ich verlassen".
Sex kann dem Ego schmeicheln. Viel Sex heißt evtl., dass du ein besonders attraktive*r und gute*r Liebbhaber*in bist. Wenn du den nicht hast, dann kann dein Selbstbewusstsein
sinken. Du entnimmst deinen Wert daraus, wie oft du Sex hast. Das macht ganz schön Druck und führt zu Frustration und die evtl. zu destruktiven Denkmustern. Du könntest
anfangen zu denken etwas stimmt mit dir nicht oder etwas stimmt mit den anderen nicht, die dich abweisen.
Sex kann auch zur Ablenkung genutzt werden oder um sich selbst nicht mehr zu spüren. Manche Menschen lassen sich so sehr auf den anderen ein, dass sie gar nicht auf die
eigenen Bedürfnisse achten. Hauptsache der*die andere hat Freude. Auch der Cocktail aus körperchemischen und emotionalen Prozessen lenken gut von tiefer liegenden Themen ab.
Der andere "Kick" für den Augenblick.
Und zu guter letzt, kann Sex auch als "Waffe" eingesetzt werden. Entzug als Strafe und Sex als Belohnung. Dabei geht es sehr wahrscheinlich um Macht, emotionale Bindung und
Kontrolle.
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What does sex mean to you and, above all, what does it mean if you don't have it?
If you have no or little sex (with your favorite person), does that bother you? If so, why?
Why is sex so important? What does it stand for and why is it "bad" if you don't have it?
For some people, sex is intimacy. If this is missing and there are no other areas associated with intimacy, such as activities, intimate conversations, compliments, attention, etc., then doubts about the relationship may quickly arise.
"If we don't have sex, we don't need to be in a relationship. Then we can just be friends." This can be linked to beliefs that the idea of a relationship is also based on the requirement/guarantee of sex.
Perhaps having sex also means that you feel loved and see this as "proof" of love. If this is missing, fears may be aroused. "If we don't have sex, she*he doesn't desire/love me" => "If he*she doesn't love me, I'll be left alone".
Sex can flatter the ego. Lots of sex may mean that you are a particularly attractive and good lover. If you don't have this, your self-confidence can drop. You derive your worth from how often you have sex. This puts a lot of pressure on you and leads to frustration and possibly to a destructive mindset. You might start to think something is wrong with you or something is wrong with the others who are rejecting you.
Sex can also be used as a distraction or to stop feeling yourself. Some people get so involved with the other person that they don't even pay attention to their own needs. The main thing is that the other person enjoys it. The cocktail of physical and emotional processes is also a good distraction from deeper issues. The other "kick" for the moment.
And last but not least, sex can also be used as a "weapon". Deprivation as a punishment and sex as a reward. This is most likely about power, emotional attachment and control.
If you have no or little sex (with your favorite person), does that bother you? If so, why?
Why is sex so important? What does it stand for and why is it "bad" if you don't have it?
For some people, sex is intimacy. If this is missing and there are no other areas associated with intimacy, such as activities, intimate conversations, compliments, attention, etc., then doubts about the relationship may quickly arise.
"If we don't have sex, we don't need to be in a relationship. Then we can just be friends." This can be linked to beliefs that the idea of a relationship is also based on the requirement/guarantee of sex.
Perhaps having sex also means that you feel loved and see this as "proof" of love. If this is missing, fears may be aroused. "If we don't have sex, she*he doesn't desire/love me" => "If he*she doesn't love me, I'll be left alone".
Sex can flatter the ego. Lots of sex may mean that you are a particularly attractive and good lover. If you don't have this, your self-confidence can drop. You derive your worth from how often you have sex. This puts a lot of pressure on you and leads to frustration and possibly to a destructive mindset. You might start to think something is wrong with you or something is wrong with the others who are rejecting you.
Sex can also be used as a distraction or to stop feeling yourself. Some people get so involved with the other person that they don't even pay attention to their own needs. The main thing is that the other person enjoys it. The cocktail of physical and emotional processes is also a good distraction from deeper issues. The other "kick" for the moment.
And last but not least, sex can also be used as a "weapon". Deprivation as a punishment and sex as a reward. This is most likely about power, emotional attachment and control.
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